baggage

Approval

Everyone looks for someone to approve of them yet they never realize that the only approval they need is their own. One feels that without that approval they don’t know if they can accomplish their dreams and goals. The scary thing about this is that the person that might give you that approval might not care at all. That’s something we have to look at. We do have friends that carry jealousy within them, even though they might love us and want the best for us, it doesn't mean they are not human. Though they might not mean to they still harbor these feelings. I let people know how I really feel especially because I want them to have a positive journey. There are people who can’t deal with the truth but that is their problem not mines. Approval always comes with a high price and if we open those doors then you have to deal with what you are being told even if you don’t like to hear it. The only approval I need is my own whether good or bad and that is because I know myself enough to know what I am good at and not so good at. 

Do I surprise myself at times? Of course! I learned that I could do things that I never thought I could do. That is the exciting part of learning new things. Will I make mistakes? Of course! That's the only way I will learn. It's not a bad thing, it's a good thing. I am not afraid to make mistakes at all. By doing it I learn a great deal. Don’t get me wrong, I'm not looking to make mistakes but if it happens I take full responsibility for it. That is my approval in learning. Approval is a very big thing, we look for it in our parents, family, friends, and sometimes there are those that can’t give that approval to us for whatever reason. When we don’t receive it we get so angry, sad, and we feel so  unloved. This is hard, believe me I know. That is when we need to look at ourselves and start to realize who we are and what we are. That is when it is time to take charge of our lives, which is the hardest thing to do when all we want is support but in realty we all don’t get it. We must learn how to give it to ourselves, by learning about YOURSELVES!

Feeling sorry for yourself is a waste of time and being angry also takes away from you. Deal with those negative feelings and thoughts and let it go. You have a purpose in this world, we don’t have time to feel bad for ourselves. Take responsibility of your life. Don’t tell me you can’t because you can! Do not sell yourselves short! You have been doing that for a long time already. Let’s get it together and prove to yourselves that you could do it. Stop the pity party and go strengthen up. No one ever said that our journeys were going to be easy. Take control of your life and your destiny and use the  power that was given to you. Take the negative and change it into positive and make it work for you. Allow yourself to be humble for you are a special human being or you wouldn't have chosen to come down to earth to follow your journey. APPROVAL COMES WITHIN YOU! 

Bully

What is Bully? A bully is a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker. A person who also feels superior or influence and who force him or her to do what one wants by helping them into doing it.

This is what we create in our children to feel that they are superior and influenced. How would you say? By what they see and what you teach them. We don’t realize the harm we are causing to our own children. Children are already born with so much things of their past and then we add more, what a joke.  A great deal of children are already born insecure or feel that they are not worth it and then we add into that. Children depend on us and some of us don’t pay no more to that because we are out there trying to find ourselves in the wrong places so how could we see them when we don’t see our own selves?

Children are like sponges, they take everything they learn good or bad as they growing up. There are parents that help their children become negative and those are the ones that become bullies because they feel insecure, lonely, angry, rejected, ugly with in, scare, and not worth it, most of all not loved. WE AS PARENTS HAVE A DIFFICULT JOB AND IT’S NOT EASY BUT THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT JOB WE DO HAVE MORE THAN ANYTHING THAT THE WORLD CAN AFFORD US. WE GIVE SO MUCH TO THIS WORLD AND WANT TO BELONG SO MUCH, THAT WE FORGET WHY WE COME HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE AND WHY WE BECAME PARENTS. These children are not in fault, its the parents that are in fault because this is what they created  in their children. Children find ways to release their pain, hatred, anger, and they do it by hurting other children. Even if they are adults at this moment, those are the ones that are lost  and never have dealt with it and so they still carry that baggage with them. Does not matter how smart they maybe, they hide their anger very well, people would not think they are capable of something like this until it happens.

There is not a child in this world that don’t need all the positive things a parent could give them I’m not talking about material things. I am talking about what’s inside of you that, that child needs. I keep telling you that they are our future and some still don’t get it .That is a very big shame. You could stop your child from becoming a bully by teaching them that is not right to hurt others because they are hurting. Teach them to deal with their anger, hatred and insecurities. Take a good look at yourself and notice your anger, hatred, insecurities and the baggage you carry. Don’t hurt your children because of you lack of giving. What they need is positivity in their lives, don’t hurt them like that. Learn from your mistakes and pain. Why give that to your children? Because you went thought it? That is not a parent, that is a person who hates everything within themselves and the world. All children should be loved and protected. We are their guides and warriors to protect them from the cruelty of the world and the people in it. Don’t get me wrong shit happens to our children that we have not control of but at that moment is when they need us the most to help and guide them back to us.